Monday, July 4, 2011

What not to say to a prego!

I realize it's been a few days since my last post, I was talking to a friend about the fact that the blog entries are supposed to be about me finding happiness, but in all honesty I've been crabby and tired and swollen nearly every afternoon into the evening and I didn't want to have super negative posts.  But today something happened that broke the camels back.  My endocrinologist said to me
1- "wow you are only 22 weeks pregnant, I thought you were almost 32 weeks";
2- "do you have diabetes?"
3- "you've gained how much weight?.... that is too much!"
4- "you are to big! you need to cut out some carbs and increase your protein!"

These are exact statements,  I found myself apologizing for being Gluten Free because I suppose GF foods don't have as much "whole grains" and fiber.  I drove home in a complete daze.  I stopped at the grocery store and bought some cans of low sodium salmon, and GF sugar free protein powder.  So that negative voice in my head, the one that tells me that I'm gaining to much weight (20lbs to date), the one that tells me that I need to cut down on the "extra treats" I've been allowing myself since being pregnant, that one that tells me I need to exercise more and be more strict with my eat clean diet... has been renewed and strengthened.

So when my husband tells me I look amazing, I will continue to think he is just lying to me.  When my friends tell me that I look great, I'll actually be wondering if they are just trying to make me feel better because I'm actually to fat and they feel bad for me. 

Wow what a great appointment!  This lady is going to cost our family tons of cash in therapy!  I wonder instead of trying to make me feel better, which I don't think anything really can at this point, could you refer a good book?  The Dr., basically told me everything I've also been telling myself, which sucks!  But unfortunately I beleive her,  I need real help! 


  1. Time to find a new doctor....just sayin!!

  2. I agree - time to look for a new dr! What does your midwife say? I would take their advice and opinion much more seriously. The only think I feel bad for you about is that your doc is messing with your head! You look great and need to try not to be so hard on yourself. Really!! :)

  3. The problem is that she is a specialist! Hard to find them in the area! Kind of like the saying "beggars can't be choosers".

    Mind you... Kate, Kristina ditched this Dr for that same reason, I should see who she has now!

  4. My Mom told you that you are small and cute. She is barely and aquaintance to you so wouldn't lie to preserve your feelings.

    You are beautiful.

  5. I don't care what she ran a frigging do eat super healthy (WAY better than I do!) and you look frigging fabulous...Nat, you are preggo, healthy and that baby in there is well loved and is doing wonderful. That doctor is a well educated idiot. Why do you have to see her? I gained 40 pounds when I was preggo and I have Celiac, so gaining weight...especially when you are only halfway through is NORMAL! I would look into endocrinologists in the area and see if you can find someone else. Trust yourself. Trust me, I know all about negative thinking but the truth have three children, a wonderful husband, a healthy baby on the way and you are a frigging rock star preggo. I did nada while I was preggo. I read your blog and all I can think is "Holy mama...this chick is awesome! Why couldn't I have been like that?" And I don't know you that well! So you have to believe me! You look AWESOME!

  6. OHHHH my poor girl. This just about breaks my heart girl. Whether we all tellyou how amazing you are , you really need to believe it. goin through pregnancy is no small feat and continuing to be healthy and active is wonderful, you can only do what feels right for you girl. I think you are an inspiration and I say continue to treat yourself with whatever goodies you want, put your feet up and have a latte. YOU DESERVE IT, and YOUR WORTH IT!

  7. Oh Sweetie, if your voice is that negative, and it drives you to change how you eat,feel,live,and it colors your perspective and relationships.Your right, You do need help.thats not healthy. You look amazing in your pics to me, and that's truth you won't hear,But if the negative voice is what makes you and drives you to be who you are, than you will always be someone you don't want to be all those positive things are for not if you do them because the negative voice is your driving force. I hope you can free yourself and find honest and kind happiness on your path.Best wishes.

  8. You are not the first person to mention how a Dr has made these comments. I wonder, are their stats about weight gain wrong? Hope you shook this off.